The Perfect Work Life Balance

 

For me, this summer has placed me in an unforgiving position of starting from scratch.  Since Seattle, I have nested in my temporary home in Ann Arbor, Michigan. For 11 weeks, I'm testing to see what life holds for me in the Midwest. And I have to say, it’s not bad.

But I can write a lot more about this city later…

The perfect work-life balance. A concept many graduates, or soon-to-be-graduates, strive to find. Personally, I was quite afraid of it. I was scared that my job would eat up my day leaving me going home tired and unproductive. And before I know it, I'm 40, and all I remember is going to work. Maybe that is okay for some people, but that definitely doesn't sound thrilling to me.

The definition is pretty subjective, but from personal experience, it takes time to find. When you start working a full time job, you find yourself having no time. You are constantly scheduling your dinner, workouts, socials, and bedtime in your mind, and soon, it starts becoming a routine.

My biggest struggle was finding that social and personal life balance. As someone who thrives in one-on-one interactions, being in an intern class of 30 was daunting to me. Yet, I felt the need to befriend everyone, thinking that there was only a small window of opportunity to do so. For the first two weeks, I focused on networking, socializing, and trying to fit in a group; to the point where I felt quite frankly, inauthentic.  For me, I was conflicted between showing up to intern cohesions, or taking a nap at home. This type of stress created a deteriorating mentality for the first few weeks. I soon realized that nothing works if I forced things to happen

The one thing that broke this mentality was re-engaging in what I love doing. I motivated myself to work on things I enjoy such as photoshoots, visiting local shops (currently writing this at a Sweetwaters Coffee and Tea), taking yoga classes, and exploring. I've been managing my time more effectively once I worked in activities that recharged me.

I can't say that I've found the perfect work-life balance yet, but I have learned that what makes a great lifestyle is creating time for things you love. For me I like exploring and doing fun photoshoots  

My challenge for you this summer: take one afternoon a week for yourself and do something new with your surroundings, whether it's going to a new fitness class or picking up a new book to read. Add something new/different each week to change these up and you'll soon realize that work-life balance isn't a boring routine, but a new lifestyle.

 

Beauty is...

❝Beauty is not long hair, skinny legs, tanned skin or perfect teeth. Believe me. Beauty is the face of who cried and now smiles, beauty is the scar on your knee since you fell when you were a kid, beauty is the circles when love doesn’t let you sleep, beauty is the expression on the face when the alarm rings in the morning, it’s the melted makeup when you have a shower, it’s the laughter when you make a joke you’re the only one who can understand, beauty is meeting his gaze and stopping understanding, beauty is your gaze when you see him, it’s when you cry for all you paranoias, beauty is the lines marked by time. Beauty is what we feel in the inside which also shows outside us. Beauty is the marks the life leaves on us, all the kicks and the caresses the memories leave us. Beauty is letting yourself live.❞♡

-Emma Watson

This quote really speaks to me. I'm not in anyway undermining my physical appearance, but I truly believe that beauty is shown through the experiences you can't stop talking about, the memories you keep reminding yourself, and the mistakes you cried about, but managed to overcome.

I admire not those who have perfected everything their first try, but those who are humble enough to admit their imperfections. As cliche as it sounds, I believe that the imperfections are what makes each of us beautiful.

I'm going to be honest and vulnerable here: Why do I feel so empty? I surround myself with amazing people, and give myself the chance to live on my own and make my own choices. But why do I feel like I'm missing something?

That made me realize that I need to be comfortable and happy with myself. I need fulfill that small hole that yearns for something, and fill it with my own content (not sure if I'm using these metaphors correctly). I always felt that the accomplishments in my life were insignificant because I could easily find someone else to over-shadow what I have done. This self-destructing method not only is toxic but is also the worst way to live. 


This past week, I received a phenomenal internship offer for the summer.  It had everything I wanted: travel, experience, and amazing culture. Its in my nature to feel that it isn't a big deal but the immense support I got from my friends, family, and mentors was beyond anything I could imagine. After settling down with all of this, my heart felt full because what I was missing was being proud of myself; and no one can help you with that. I realize that no matter what, you need to figure out what makes you excited, happy, and content. 

And once you can figure that out, that's when your true beauty shines. <3 

The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows

I just discovered something amazing. Something that I can relate on a deep level and I cannot believe. What is that? The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows  

Basically it is a website where a creative genius John Koenig, coins new words (using roots from all different languages) on experiences or feelings that one can't pinpoint, but it exists. His youtube videos are beautiful and deserve a lot more views than it does right now. 

Now that I have introduced this topic, I just want to write about two words (love love love) : Onism and Vemödalen. Quite frankly, I can't express the definition as well as Koenig does so just watch the videos below. 

What motivates me in life are the beautiful and exciting adventures that I envision myself doing; or hope to do. It makes me excited for life in general. However, this video struck me hard. Not in a upsetting way, but in a sad but happy way. Realistically, I can't do community service in a third world country, see all of art painted by my favorite artists, visit the little cathedrals in the middle of nowhere, and hike mountains in the tropics. The list goes on...

I feel that life is too structured for me to do all of that. We're all suppose to go to get a college education, get a job, and eventually settle. You can argue that I can go on a sabbatical or take a leap year. And honestly, I sometimes wonder: why not?  

I do like to think that all the adventures I fail to experience will be experienced by someone else :) That's why we have Pinterest and flickr! 

Although I would like to imagine myself to be creative, I unwillingly fall victim to doing the things that everyone else has done. That's why I really appreciate those who are creative and original. People who take risks showing off something that is different and perhaps unpopular, really inspires me. It shows that they're thinking outside of the box. 

Its addicting to take these kind of pictures though. So artsy and fun! :)

Its addicting to take these kind of pictures though. So artsy and fun! :)

Thats about all I have to say. Its not much, but I hope that you guys enjoy these videos as much as I did. I do hope they post more because its very inspiring and I love the creativity and editing.

~Anne 

Welcome!

Only three more weeks and I'll be done with my first year of College! Wow.. this year has definitely passed faster then I would've imagined. Considering that I was living 1500 miles away from home, I have to say that I managed pretty well.  I have been rewarded with so many friends from joining student organizations and I am extremely fortunate to meet so many great and amazing people. (: 

I don't know how many times I have thought about starting a blog. I started so many from different domains like blogger, blogspot, weebly, and wordpress but I never had the motivation to continue posting because I had no readers. Yet on the other hand, I felt awkward advertising my blog.  I was afraid to open that gate of privacy for the public to enter and read my writing. 

I've traveled in my life and I regret immensely when I try to remember what happened and lacked the organization of jumbled memories and details. I wished that there was a place I could go to and revisited the blissful moments that I hold dear to me. 

However, with all the exciting things that I'll be doing this summer, I refuse to not blog/vlog about it. So, I guess this is another attempt of me starting a blog that I'll hopefully commit to.

One of my favorite cafes to just sit and write is the Nook Cafe. I usually get their Earl Grey Tea Lattes and a warm chocolate chip cookie :) 

Thats all for now, hope everyone is having a great Tuesday. 

Also, I have to say, pressing that heart icon below creates the cutest heart explosion. (is this a trick for you to like my post? Iono ;] ) 

-Anne